Spew. Vent. Rant. No matter what you call it, at times we just feel the need to get something off our chests. Irritated by the behavior of someone to the point that you have to express it or explode! Social media seems to be a popular place to blast such thoughts whether it be about friend, family or strangers. Oh my gosh! *I'm rolling my eyes.* Sometimes, I am hard pressed to keep my fingers off the keys. I so want to tell the person that their comment was out of line or TMI or... whatever wisdom I would like to impart pertaining to the ick displayed on my screen. But I don't. Out there in comments land anyway. I have felt compelled to send a private message/novel a time or two. Ultimately, though, I believe that old adage that goes if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
However... You see it coming, don't you? Will it help to know I have a little grin on my face and not a scowl? ...If no one ever broaches the subject, how is one ever able to see things from a different perspective? In light of that, I'd like to put a couple of things out there.
1. Please, don't air your family differences for all the world to see. The spouse/significant other blasts, whether cryptic or full blown vicious, are the worst. And, yes, you may have family members or in-laws whose views differ from yours on every topic and their way of handling a situation may clash with yours at every turn. But, come on now, when it's all said and done, you are family. Odds are things are going to get worked out, but those hurtful, negative words you wrote or spoke to everyone who would listen are out there for good.
2. If you are out in the world and see something someone is doing that is airheaded, rude, shocking, or even down right appalling, I'm curious to know how blasting this stranger is putting a positive spin on things. Perhaps they are having a really bad day or decade for all we know. And the odds grow higher every day that they didn't have the privilege of being raised in a home that taught respect and values. Maybe they are just rotten to the core, but, hey, when it gets right down to it, aren't we all? A bunch of broken people muddling about in the dark, most of which don't have a clue about how to truly light up there life. If you are a believer, why don't you pray for the person right then and there... sure beats throwing up in your mouth a little for heaven's sake!
I rolled my eyes again as I typed that phrase. Not just because it was a super gross moment when it has actually happened to me either! It's the context in which people use it when making a slam that I find most distasteful about the phrase. Blech!
After your public rant, do you really feel better past the rush of "so there!" as you press enter? Did it make a
difference in resolving the situation positively for anyone or did it give others an opportunity to jump on your bandwagon adding a slam or two of their own? Building a sense of camaraderie, but at what cost? There can be a
problem with bandwagons. If the mob mentality (which can spread like wild fire) takes a negative spin, things can get out of control in a hurry!
By the way, I never expected to find a picture of a crashed bandwagon!* It surprised me there amongst all the happy, come along with us and life will be grand type of images. Something else popped up, too, that wasn't an image at all, but I had the urge to click it. Personally, I think it was divine intervention (Yes, it does really happen.). It tied the negative effect of mob mentality right to this particular bandwagon. It's an article by Zachary K. Perins for Relevant Magazine. <~ You should click it. It's a good read. It made me think about this topic on a much bigger scale!
But let's get back to our own little worlds for just a minute. If we need to spew stuff, lets make sure we are expelling large quantities of (something) rapidly and forcibly that builds others up. The clock is ticking! Time's going to reach it's end. Instead of stirring up strife, let's strive to follow Paul's lead when he said,
And, hey, let's not just think about it.
Let's put it out there on social media and beyond!
Let's put it out there on social media and beyond!
May we pray?
Thank you for loving us so much. I pray that if there is one reading this that is seeking the truth, that they will bask in the glow of Your love this minute and realize it's from You it comes.
And I know basking is good for believers, too, Father God! Fill us up with love so that we can't help but share it with those we meet. Whether they are lost or just beaten down to the point they feel there really is no hope, remind us to use our words in a way that lets a ray of Your light shine in the darkness.
It's because of Your Son, Jesus, that we have this hope. And it is in His name we pray.
I'd be glad to hear your thoughts. You can leave them below or over on the Facebook page.
See you next time!
PS I know sometimes we seriously do need to talk about things that are going on in our lives that aren't pretty. Talking with a trusted friend goes a long way in helping us feel relief and keeps a lid on things. Pray up about it, too. I believe that's truly our best recourse.
*Heroe's Destruction http://bucklesw.blogspot.com/2005/08/orton-bros-circus-1916-wrecked.html
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